I remember as a child I hated with a passion when I was told what to do, or when I was wrong.
I always seemed to be wrong. I could never do anything right. If I made a conscious decision to achieve something (which I always did), I somehow manage to break something in the process or embarrass myself along the way.
When given advice, I always heard my voice echo ‘I know.’
Really? Do I know?
‘I know’ was keeping me closed off. I was doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result. Truth be told I didn’t know, hence the shovel that kept digging in the same place.
Whether I was working towards launching my online business Hair Beauty Glamour or in the salon Transition Emporium, I was hearing criticism. What criticism really meant was that they did not understand what I was doing. Digital marketing is not a 9-5 business like the salon and that’s what everyone in my circle was used to. That’s when I decided I need to be around like-minded people- people who understood where I was going and what I was doing. That’s when I learned that criticism no longer meant “disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes.”
Criticism now meant “opportunity” – an opportunity to learn from mistakes and also improve.
I looooove criticism now. I ask for it. I cannot develop and grow without criticism. I want to know what people want and need. I don’t have the time to sit around and guess if I’m on the right path. I don’t care too much when people criticise or talk about me, nor do I pay attention to what others might think of me. I don’t even care if they do not like me.
My freedom came when I learned that “people’s opinion of me is none of my business” plus more fist-pumping quotes below to live by. What a relief!
We are all here to learn and grow and apply and share those learnings, and I’m perfectly fine with that.